Over the last few weeks, Mom has been more combative and has refused treatment at the nursing home. Last week, in her confusion and agitation, she missed two dialysis treatments. She was hospitalized because of this, and even in the hospital, she continued to resist treatment. After talking to several doctors, we have decided to discontinue dialysis, and we have moved her to an inpatient hospice facility.
Mom says she wants dialysis, but she resists everything else. When anyone tries to treat her leg and foot wounds, she resists. When they try to give her insulin, she resists. And even when she's in the dialysis unit, she fights the nurses and does not cooperate unless sedated heavily. Because of the dementia, she is extremely paranoid. She doesn't trust her doctors, nurses or me, and this has led to her yelling, fighting and swatting at people trying to help her. One doctor said that Mom's resistance of treatment may be her subconscious way of telling us she's tired of all this.
When another doctor suggested stopping dialysis back in June, we couldn't even consider it, but now that she's fighting medical help, we feel like it's the right thing to do. But wow, are we struggling mightily with this decision! I can't stop flashing back to 1993 when Daddy stopped dialysis and what Mom said then about quality of life. Unbelievable that we're repeating that now.
Please pray for Mom's comfort and peace, and please pray especially for those of us who are struggling to imagine a world without her in it.